We are all bystanders. From walking to class to running at the gym, we all witness a wide range of situations, from inappropriate sexual comments or sexual harassment.

It's the choice we make to do something that can make a difference, not only for the victim but for our community as well.

We can promote positive behaviors and attitudes or prevent harmful ones.

Bystander Intervention is a practice of strategy and way of thinking for preventing different types of violences, from bullying to sexual assault. It is when a bystander, classmate, teammate, or friend, safely and effectively steps in and prevents or stops another person from being in a situation of sexual violence.

There are many benefits to Bystander Intervention.

This practice discourages victim blaming, promotes the change of social norms like rape culture, and shifts the responsibility from victim to community for both men and women are equal in prevention.

THE BASICS TO BYSTANDER INTERVENTION

    BYSTANDER STEPS
  1. Notice the Event
  2. Identify it as an emergency
  3. Take responsibility
  4. Decide how to help (safely and effectively)
  5. Act to intervene
    BYSTANDER STEPS
  1. Step in
  2. Ask if the person needs help, a friend, a ride, or to call 911
  3. Don’t leave them
  4. Have a buddy system, alerting other friends
  5. Distract the perp so there’s time to intervene

SCENE ONE: SAVE ONE

SCENARIO ONE:

You and friends are walking to your next class together. Your male friend sees a woman and loudly begins to make suggestive comments about her body.

Because he is your friend, you can stepping in pretty quickly without hurting his feelings. If you can’t step in quickly, try to steer your friend in the opposite direction, considering the feeling of the woman. When talking to your friend, begin positive vibes, such as that you care for him. Then tell him that since he’s your friend, tell him what he specifically did was not cool.

SCENARIO TWO:

You and some friends are dancing at a party and some strange guy comes in and begins to isolate one of your friends, eventually blocking her from the group’s view.

First, make eye contact with your friend to see if she needs/wants help. If so, find ways to pull her away from the situation. If you’re unsure, ask her or text her.

Tip: Before you go out with a group a friends, make a plan on how to find one other, or what the group should do in case a situation like this has escalated.

SCENARIO THREE:

You a buddy are a party and notice some guy being over freely on a fellow female student who appears to be really drunk. His hand movements become more aggressive with barely any reflex from the female.

First, tell a friend to keep an eye out for the girl while you assess the situation. Try to step into the “couple’s” situation by asking the girl a few friendly questions, while doing so,asses her state of mind and level of intoxication. If she is completely passed out, tell the “perp” her friend is looking for her and is about to call the cops. He will probably run away, then take her away and try to get her somewhere safe. If the girl is awake but incoherent, tell the “perp” her mom is freaking out and security is on their way, in which he will probably leave. Then ask if she needs a friend, a ride, or to call 911.